Ever Feel Like You’re The Only One?

27 Jan

2012 was a great year for my family. We discovered homesteading, found out we are expecting our son, put away some money for a house with more land, and learned a lot of new skills. But it was also the year I began to feel like we were sort of out there on our own with our approach to homesteading. Not so much in that we’re atheists. I mean, when people hear homesteading, they tend to get this picture of religious zealots preparing for end times. But, that really isn’t the case. Yeah, there are some religious zealots out there that believe society has gotten too evil to exist in, but there are plenty of non-believers as well. But, I’m finding myself bumping heads with this group as well. In just about every online community I’ve found, most seem to be striving to party like it’s 1799. They envision building a cabin in the woods somewhere with no electricity or running water. I was with them until they started talking about showering outside and having to trudge through the snow to the outhouse. Sounds romantic doesn’t it? To them, it’s a matter of living a more environmentally-friendly life. Yeah, but they make solar panels, wind energy, and stuff like that to lessen our impact on the environment.
Then, came the big discussion on whether or not we considered ourselves submissive wives. Yeah, my mind went right where yours is going right now. I was sitting there thinking “I’m almost six months pregnant, I’m not much of anything in that department right now.” But, oh no, I was wrong; a submissive wife isn’t one who likes to be told what to do in the bedroom. She’s one that chooses to be told what is going to be done in pretty much every area of her life. I’m being overly dramatic about it, but in nutshell, our lives should be governed by our genders and our husbands get the final say. Uh, no thanks. One of the things that make my marriage work, is the fact that my husband and I are equal partners, each with an equal say in how our household is run. We are each other’s best friend, and we trust and value what the other has to say. Plus, if I succumbed to my wifely role and took over making dinner each night, I’m pretty sure the dog would be eating better out of his bag of dog food.
I guess it really made my head spin to hear that kind of talk from women who hold no religious beliefs. I can understand having that belief if you also had strong religious beliefs, but without them…
I’m not even going to get into the fun conversation we had about homeschooling.

So I guess I still haven’t found my people. I’m still a homesteading mama who still wants to live in the 21st century; feminism, public education and all


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